Have you ever seen a dog that didn't want to move, just didn't want to go wherever his owner was trying to take him? and he roots his paws to the earth and pushes away with all his might?
That's how i feel about my life. But I'm the owner AND the dog. I feel like I have one foot on the gas and one on the brake. I love that I am busy, that i have friends who want to hang out, wedding stuff to plan, plays to rehearse and perform, etc. BUT there is also a part of me that wants to sleep till 11am, read some books, go chill at the beach, go on a nice long hike, get a dog and spend some more time outside.
i digress
~I got my ring resized and cleaned and it's all pretty and sparkly like the day i got it! I am regretting my decision in 4th grade to start cracking my knuckles. As a result of that choice, I can not get my ring to fit right. It's still loose and spins a little on my finger, but were it any tighter, i wouldn't be able to get it on past my fat knuckle. *sigh* I think I wan to get in engraved with the date that Steve proposed.
~ Allthough I am an avid Weddingbee reader, I would not consider myself a DIY bride. Though I love that feeling, and I do have time.... We're thinking of doing something really cool for the table "numbers" (it's a secret for now) and that would be a DIY project. Alternatively, I could delegate some stuff to my wonderfully talented friends.
~ I don't think Steve and I will be having an engagement party. Though I should talk to my mom about that. She had mentioned something..... It just feels like another way to squeeze gifts out of people. and knowing my mom, she'll stress hard core and we'll get in fights about stuff. ugh!
~ Steve and I have pretty much finalized our guest list. Which was kind of hard, but not the nightmare that I had heard it would be. Part of me just wants to invite everyone. And another part of me wants to have only 50 people. It's hard to sick to rules. But my friend Julie gave me a good one. "If they're not living together, they can't bring a date" Which I like. For example, my friend Jess. She is hands down the best friend I made in college, and she's been with her BF for like 3 or 4 years. They are living together and I want her to come to my wedding. I know that she really wont know anyone aside from me, steve, i think Molly and my parents. So I want her to have someone there who she'll feel comfortable with. My other friend from college(doesn't know jess and who will remain unnamed) is also living with her BF of 3 or so years. However, she is kind of an obligation invite, and I don't really want to pay for her BF to come too. Thoughts?
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
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I think that even though you don't want to pay for her boyfriend, it's better to have consistent rules and just stick to them, because that's the fair thing to do. Although you could just not invite her at all? I dunno what the obligation is for her.
yeah, i agree. with the rule thing. The obligation is just that i feel bad for her; i think she thought she might be maid of honor, or a bridesmaid at least. i just feel weird about not inviting her. But there are other people that i like WAY more than her that I'd rather have there.....i hate the politics of weddings
If it's any consolation, that was MY rule, and it got totally messed up. People that weren't even in a relationship INSISTED on bringing dates. Whereas some other people didn't bring their husbands and finace's, etc. I started to change it to "If I don't know your significant other's name, they really shouldn't be invited." But my advice is to invite whoever you want, and if people RSVP with extra significant others, call those RSVP's (after you figure out the number you can work with) and just tell them "I'm really sorry but..." and every etiquette thing you'll read is that it's "hard and fast" rules. You can't just rank people and make exceptions, or else you'll be one of "those brides" we're all scared we'll be!
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